Today I read that Nils Pickert , (from Germany), allows his 5 year old son to wear dresses in public. This dad doesn’t like the reactions people give his poor kid, so he’s wearing a skirt “in solidarity”. Yep. Here’s what he says:
“Yes, I’m one of those dads that try to raise their children equal. I’m not one of those academic daddies that ramble about gender equality during their studies and then, as soon as a child’s in the house, still relapse into those fluffy gender roles: He’s finding fulfillment in his carrier and she’s doing the rest. Thus I am, I know that by now, part of the minority that makes a fool of themselves from time to time. Out of conviction.” Huffington Post
Come on over to my house Nils. Sit down … let me mix you a drink. I'd like to share with you some facts about kids. First, I can assure you that your son will find as much “fulfillment” in a box of legos or a gluestick - trust me on this. Second, ALL little boys want to try wearing makeup and ALL little girls try standing up to pee. They want to be like mommy/daddy. The first rule of parenting is, teach your kids the difference between boys and girls. It’s not about “gender equality” it’s about anatomy and life. A child’s desire to experiment with such things will continue long after your discussions begin. Your job is to spend these years pointing them in the right direction. If you indulge your childs every ridiculous desire , while exposing him to ridicule and criticism, won't that fuck him up more than just telling him “boys don’t do that”? Hell - let him wear some heels around the house if he needs to get it out of his system.
I once let my son out of the house with nail polish. He proudly showed it off to some ten year old twats who ripped on him relentlessly until I intervened. (Shame on me). I felt so bad for my son that I went home and cried about it for days. My heart hurt so badly for him - that he was a butt of a joke and that I caused it. Do you not feel that?
Generally speaking, kids at this age don’t need to “find their identity” or “express who they are”. They need to learn social survival skills like, “please”, “thank you” and “don’t touch me there”. They have years of making mistakes ahead of them while you're not around. Don't let them start when you are.
Nils, I respect your sense of humor and the love you have for your son. I too, do ridiculous things for my kids but this isn’t about you. I think your priorities are screwed up and this is a sick way to get attention while putting your kid in an unnecessary spotlight.
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